You Can Cultivate Personal Happiness

…whether or not you have depression.

You can’t choose happiness…

…no matter how many memes say that you canYou can’t choose your feelings…they just are. However, you can choose how you react, and you can choose to cultivate happiness.

When suffering in the depths of depression, happiness isn’t just out of reach…it’s out of sight. The light of happiness cannot be seen. This can be a dangerous and scary time. It’s important to know that life has the capacity to change. Unfortunately, I can tell you from my own experiences, I didn’t believe that it could. You can change your life, though, through the desire to change and through attaining appropriate help. We can’t snap our fingers and be okay. If we want to get better, we have to work to get better.

I’m there now.

I attend psychotherapy. I take my medications. I’m more attuned to my thoughts and feelings. I can tell when my mind is beginning to spiral if I don’t do something about it. And, I can create happiness for myself. I no longer have to struggle simply to make it through the day. I can truly enjoy the day.

One way I create happiness within my life is to make time for a hobbyA hobby, by definition, is an activity pursued for pleasure. I’ve dabbled in many activities to determine which ones I like the most.

I’ve tried geocaching with my son (so much fun, but I’m allergic to everything on God’s green earth).

I’ve tried advanced coloring books for adults (fun, but I quickly became bored). 

I’ve tried board games…and love it. It’s so much fun with my family; in fact, we currently own three versions of Monopoly…my favorite being Big Bang Theory Monopoly.

I also love to write.

Oftentimes, it’s simply journaling. Occasionally, it’s tackling various types of poetryOf course, writing for my blogMedium, and other online platforms has become my favorite pastime, as is reading. I’ve recently finished reading Willpower Doesn’t Work. I plan to blog aboutit, as well, so be on the lookout.

Hobbies spark personal happiness.

They provide relaxation in the midst of physical and mental activity and cultivate a good habit rather than a bad one. That spark becomes emblazoned through increased confidence and self-esteem, and we become more closely connected to others, as well, through conversations about our hobbies or sharing in them with others.

Hobbies have the power to change a negative mood into a positive one.

Endless hobbies wait to be sampled. Try out a few.

What about leather crafting or calligraphy? Gardening? Cooking or baking? Fishing? Hiking? Scrapbooking? Genealogy? Origami? Dancing? Vlogging? Photography?

“Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Shake yourself awake.Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto.” ~Dale Carnegie


→What is one way you are cultivating your happiness today?

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It’s a Laughing Matter

Take Laughing Seriously.

The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. e. e. cummings

I used to think that a day without chocolate is a day wasted, but I’ve come around to agreeing with e.e. cummings. Consider a day without a genuine smile and laughter. What does that leave us? Sadness, depression, or even complete apathy.

Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something. ~William Goldman in Princess Bride.

Continue reading “It’s a Laughing Matter”

I am a survivor…

…and so are you.


Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.  ~Helen Keller



I decided to make a list of all I have survived in my life. I doubt my list is exhaustive, but I am amazed by the length of it anyway. If you wrote a survival list, I’m sure you, too, would have an eye-opening experience. Continue reading “I am a survivor…”

The Infinite To-Do List

It’s burying me.

I’m a list person.

I have a shopping list for Target, a shopping list for groceries, a shopping list for other miscellaneous items needed, a to-do list for the house, a to-do list for work, a to-do list for chores. It’s never-ending. The lists are never truly completed because before the items are all scratched off, more items amass or are re-added. Continue reading “The Infinite To-Do List”