The inability to cope with the demands of your job and your personal life can cause you to feel a variety of emotions, all of which are negative. Once you get overwhelmed by these feelings, you will have further difficulties going through your daily activities, both in the office and at home. You may now even find it difficult to enjoy doing the usual things that used to give you joy.
Because finding the right work-life balance is crucial in keeping you well-balanced and happy, it is important that you make this a priority.
Experiencing a Well-Balanced Lifestyle
Although achieving this balance may sound like a tall order, it shouldn’t necessarily be so. Registered psychologists from Sydney, Australia say that implementing certain changes in your lifestyle can take you a step closer to experiencing true work-life balance.
Below are some simple, doable tips to help you achieve a well-balanced lifestyle:
Learn to say no
If your supervisor keeps asking you to work on weekends or your friends are always asking you for favors, start saying no.
Having a deep-rooted feeling of being wanted and liked is normal. However, you don’t have to please everyone every time. If you do, you won’t accomplish anything, and you will start a cycle of dependency from others that may never end. In addition, this will further push you into feelings of anxiety and unhappiness, which will affect your mental health.
Setting limits to what you can and want to do weekly or monthly will help you avoid feelings of guilt as you start learning to say no.
Schedule at least an hour during the day and several hours at night to “get away from it all.” This means turning off your computer and your phone, if possible.
During this downtime, stop checking your emails and messages and do not accept calls. By doing so, you will allow your brain to truly rest and recover.
This is something that you have to do when you are with your family, partner, friends, and anytime you are not working. By doing this, you will be able to focus on yourself. You will improve your interpersonal relationships as well.
Moreover, temporarily distancing yourself from your work and the Internet every day will allow you to regain and control some of your valuable time.
Set or follow official working hours
Regardless of your position, follow or implement official working hours every day.
By following this schedule, you will ensure that you have enough time for work while still making it home for dinner or to play a match or two of tennis with your friends.
Make sure your employees, boss, and co-workers know that you will be following this schedule strictly. This means you will also answer only emails, calls, and work-related questions during your official working hours. With this, you will be able to avoid rushing to respond to them. They will also know when they can expect to hear back from you.
Although the people in your workplace may not comprehend your self-imposed rule immediately, they will understand this eventually. They may even follow your lead and start working on improving their lifestyle as well.
Work out regularly
If you don’t have a daily exercise routine yet, then it’s time for you to establish one.
When you exercise daily, you will improve your overall health – something that will help you greatly as you meet the demands of your work and your personal life.
In addition, whenever you exercise, you are mentally detaching yourself from work and all your worries. And as you work out, norepinephrine is released. It is a neuromodulator that will help your brain manage anxiety, stress, and depression better, regardless of whether you are at work or at home.
Plan your annual holidays in advance
Your vacations are great opportunities for you to spend time with your loved ones or to pamper yourself. When you spend two or more days away from your work and other usual activities, you will be able de-stress and re-energize yourself.
Scheduling your vacations two or three months in advance will allow you to set in stone time away from work. Keep in mind that if you don’t do this as soon as possible, you may have to postpone your holiday or end up not even taking it because of unexpected events, demands, and deadlines.
And by literally placing your holidays on your calendar or reminder, you will have something to look forward to and keep you energized for the remaining days until your vacation.
If you have tried these simple tips but are still having difficulties balancing your work and personal life, don’t hesitate to consult a psychologist. With the help of a professional, you will be able to turn your life around for the better.
Dr. Gemma Gladstone is an endorsed clinical psychologist and certified schema therapist, supervisor and trainer. Along with Justine Corry, she is co-director of the Good Mood Clinic in Sydney and has 24 years of experience within mental health.